Desires

It's no secret that I enjoy sex and all the 'games' that go along with it. I guess properly phrased, it would be that I love all the aspects of a romantic relationship when we're talking physical only. The emotional stuff I'm still working on learning to enjoy. I'm also learning to hate what sex can represent in a relationship. That's a philosophical debate for another blog though.

The overwhelming sensations I've had as of late are reminiscent of my late teen years. I've realized that I enjoy sex not only for romance but as a form of stress relief, celebration, bonding, lust satiation, and simply physical release.

I was reminded in a harsh way how to take emotion out of sex - something I've not done since my "whore days" ;)

Putting a wrapper around the whole thing that gives it emotional restriction stopped the casual dating/sex thing from my early youth. I gave the act some sort of meaning beyond two adults who want to get off or have unspoken needs that need to be met - and that's the best medium.

As I've aged I've formed a few opinions on things - casual sex just isn't really for me. It lacks the core things that I've come to like about the way I think the sex thing should go down. It lacks the trust to really open up and just have fun.

Honestly how many drunken sexual encounters in your life have been nothing more than one or two positions, a quick climax, and a outright lie of "I'll call you".

I've decided the kind of sexual relationship I need to have to be completely satisfied in a relationship-relationship has to be full of energy, a willingness to give things a try, and not something that happens with the lights off all the time.

It's got to be something I look forward to - boring sex sucks. Scheduled Wednesday night orgasms in between Law and Order and Sports Center is fucking lame.

I have to have someone that's willing to let the fantasy happen. I'm not talking some weird fantasy like pancake batter, a turtle, and a papertowel tube - but meet me at the door naked, play the games where I leave notes around the house directing you out of clothes and into the bedroom, don't be afraid to whip out toys, don't hold back on being able to talk about it - from any standpoint. Just, for the sake of all that is good, talk about it. Stop hiding behind some coy act - if you've had me in your mouth...well.. the pretense has to be gone, right? There is no more "I'm to innocent to mention it" attitude allowed.

Mystery? Sure.
Seduction? Sure.

..but lets not be short on the words part - they make all the rest better.

-K